Till Death Do Us Part – 19 Years of Marriage

On Monday, Craig and I will be celebrating 19 years of blissful matrimony.

I am obviously using the term “blissful” sarcastically.

We are from two different backgrounds.  I am a city girl who uses Saturday’s to relax and enjoy that day. He’s a farmer who thinks every Saturday needs to be filled with work from early morning until evening. Those first few years of marriage, I had visions of us lounging around in bed, watching tv, and looking lovingly into each other’s eyes every Saturday.

That never happened.

The first few years of our marriage were rough. I was living in a different state than my family, and adjusting to life on a farm was harder than I thought.

My loneliness turned into bitterness. And who better take that bitterness out on, than Craig?

There was that time that I was so angry with him, in the midst of an argument, I hurled a popcorn bowl at him. It didn’t make contact with his head, because the Lord didn’t bless me with an accurate throwing arm. I can’t remember what the argument was over, but we both remember that bowl flying through the air!

I’ve said one too many times, “I give up, this marriage is over!” I said it just to see the pain in his eyes. In a moment of hate, the one thing I wanted to do was hurt him.

It worked.

We may think that words are just words, but when they are spewed out in a fit of anger; words can inflict more pain than childbirth.

If you are married, I am sure that you can relate. Our sinful nature brings out the worse in us in times of anger and despair.

My Husband is My Best Friend

After one particular disagreement over something that I can’t even remember; I realized something. Craig is not only my husband, but also my best friend.

I don’t speak to my friends in hateful tones, so why should I talk to Craig like that?

I’ve changed my mindset when we have disagreements, and I try to hold back the words that are in my head! I have bitten my tongue on more than one occasion. At times, this is hard to do, and I need the Lord’s strength to restrain myself.

Marriage is a Compromise

Through these last nineteen years of marriage and two children, we have learned to compromise. In all honesty, my husband is a saint. He’s married to a strong-willed woman, and I will be the first to admit that I am not the easiest person to live with.

Throughout our years, Craig has supported me in being a stay-at-home mom, a home consultant for a scrapbooking and stamping company, a cosmetic company, and a candle company. He’s been my biggest cheerleader when it comes to my writing.

I cook dinner, Craig cleans up the dishes.

I get up early to have some quiet time, and he makes breakfast for the boys.

I take care of the dog by giving him medicine and dog food. Craig makes the dog eggs AND pancakes for breakfast. And he claims that he’s not a dog person! Yeah, right!

Christ-Centered Marriage

Because of Craig, I have a relationship with Christ. Craig was born and raised in a Christian church, where I was born and raised a Catholic. I left the church long before meeting Craig. I’m sure it took courage for him to ask me to attend a service with him. I was pretty independent and thought that I could live a life on my own – without anyone’s help; especially God’s.

I was wrong about that!

I thank God every day for Craig. Yes, the man can get on my nerves, but I can’t imagine life without him. He’s my soulmate and the father of my sons. He texts me daily, merely saying, “Hope your day is going well; love you!” I treasure those texts!

Craig, I love you! Here’s to 19+ more years of marriage. I can’t wait to celebrate our anniversary with you next month! Seriously, what were we thinking when we chose to get married in May?!?!?! It’s a crazy busy month! We don’t have time to breathe, let alone go out for dinner!




  1. Fabian Jude Joseph on July 2, 2023 at 7:42 am

    Being a catholic myself, I appreciate you !

    What matters is the truth in your relationship and the understanding given by God to deal with wisdom in trying situations.

    I’d take this opportunity to give God the glory for finding in you a vessel who HE can trust for honesty in your words and communication skills.

    God bless you and your husband and sons.

    Praise The Lord Alone !

    Being a catholic I am in agreement with the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ with all like minded people who remain true to the message of our salvation. (Gal 1:1-10)

    Therefore, God has my heart and I’m able to put word into the mouth of people through my songs on various platforms by HIS grace alone.

    I’m a married man with one wife and two sons and a daughter.(1 Tim 3:1-4) pun intended !

    I preach and share the gospel of Jesus anywhere I see an opportunity, individually, at people’s homes or publicly in church.

    I have a Wednesday Word & Worship meeting in my Parish, Sacred Heart Church, South Lallaguda, 500017, Secunderabad Telangana State India, from 6:30pm-8:00pm, accepted and encouraged by the clergy of our parish.

    Our family are the primary members and we had gone upto a attendance of over 15 people on few occasions, yet, I’m not ashamed of the gospel of our lord Jesus Christ.(Rom 1:16)

    I call this ministry of mine as : Divine Nature (DNA), inspired by the word of GOD (2 Pet 1:4).

    I appreciate you and your ministry of the word dear sister in Christ Jesus our Lord and pray that you are blessed beyond measure.(Eph 3:19-21), in Lord Jesus’ name, Amen! Hallelujah !

    God bless you, Craig and your family and ministry.

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