“You’re a parent of an 18-year-old!” my friend said as I walked over to her.
Her excitement was contagious as others joined in, and for a split second, I regretted any mentioning of it.
As I held back the tears, I wasn’t offended at all by what my friend said. Grant did turn 18 on March 5, that was a fact. I was tearful because, in the blink of an eye, I no longer had a child, but an adult. An adult who would be making his way in this broken, sin-filled world, and making his own decisions.
Celebrating Big One Last Time (At Least for Awhile!)
I decided early on that this birthday needed to stand out among all the other birthdays. We celebrated our usual way with a steak dinner and an ice cream cake from DQ. We sang happy birthday and lit candles. He opened his gifts, and I photographed it all.
From the moment of his birth and every birthday since then, we have our photo taken together. It is something that I always insisted on doing with both boys on their birthdays. It’s something to look back on and remember those special times.
This year was different. This would be the last photo for a few years that we would take together on his birthday.
For the next four years, Grant will be away at college. A college that is 14 hours away from home. And unless we travel down to Baylor or his birthday falls on a weekend, more than likely, we will not be together to celebrate.
And that my friends, is why I was tearful. Life as a family of four is changing.
Grant’s birth – March 5, 2002
Grant’s 18th birthday – March 5, 2020
Stuck in Between Responsibility and Still Depending on Your Parents
Having an 18-year-old is a little weird. Viewed as adults who can make their own choices, but yet, when it comes to signing school permission slips, parents still need to sign them. Even more confusing is that as parents, we no longer have access to their medical records, and yet, we can carry them on our health insurance until they are 26.
Pray! Pray! Pray!
As our children continue to become more independent and plan their lives for living outside our home, the one thing that we can do as parents is to pray!
There are times when I am finding that I just need to keep my mouth closed and let Grant figure it out. Other times I feel the need to hound him somewhat to get things done (hint, hint — submit that housing application, son!) So, let us “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Roman 12:12
Here are Five Verses to Pray Over our Adult Children:
- May our children always turn to the Lord and trust in Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
- May our children love others and be respectful to those who have differing opinions from them. Hebrews 10:24 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works.”
- May our children think before they speak and speak kindly to others. Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
- May our children remember to “armor up” daily. Ephesians 6:12-13 “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.”
- May our children remember that no matter what mistakes they have made, they are loved by the Lord! Romans 8:38-39 “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”